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Attending Rehab As A Parent

Getting Treatment For Substance Abuse As A Parent

While it can be difficult for almost anyone with substance abuse issues to take the difficult step of committing to drug rehab, the road to recovery may be even more difficult for an addicted parent. Along with all the other difficulties that come with seeking addiction treatment, addicted parents must arrange other childcare for their children while they go to rehab if they are planning on utilizing a residential treatment center.

In the best case scenario, the parent will be able to leave the children with a spouse or other family member while they attend rehab, and will be able to maintain custody of their child throughout their rehab center process. However, If a parent is sufficiently incapacitated due to a substance use disorder, the child’s safety may be at risk, in which case the parents may lose custody in order to ensure the child’s protection.

So, parents who do not have family members who can commit to raising children while they go to rehab may face the threat of losing custody of them due to their drug addiction if they cannot make alternate arrangements. According to the National Association for Children of Addiction, one in four children in the US is exposed to dependence on drugs or alcohol in their family, an experience that can lead to “serious physical and emotional difficulties” and a plethora of long-term risks.

Though, according to the Child Welfare Information Gateway, most parents with substance abuse problems are not actually dangerous to their children, it is thus also true that a significant percentage of children who are in foster care are there due to a parental substance abuse problem.

Worries about custody, though, shouldn’t be a reason for a parent not going to rehab for drugs or alcohol if it is warranted by the severity of their substance use. For one thing, even in the unfortunate case that a parent does lose custody of a child while going to rehab, it will not necessarily be permanent, especially if a parent surrenders the child themselves. Though the child will likely be placed in temporary foster care, family services are obligated to work to reunite children with their parents once it is clear that returning home is a safe option.

This is in contrast to the likely outcome if the parent continues their substance abuse as opposed to choosing to seeking help from a qualified treatment provider. Parents suffering from sufficiently severe substance use disorders who do not seek treatment for their condition are at a high risk of losing custody due to factors like arrests or other evidence that the safety of their children is at risk.

It’s also worth noting that treatment options may include those that are flexible enough that a parent could attend intensive substance abuse treatment while still fulfilling their childcare and other family obligations.

Many rehab centers offer outpatient care, which means that instead of staying full time in a residential treatment facility as in typical inpatient rehab, patients will instead only have to come to the rehab center to receive treatment for a minimum of nine hours a week. American addiction centers that offer outpatient care also tend to be less expensive than inpatient rehab centers, so depending on your financial situation, insurance provider, and what you are looking for in a treatment provider, it could be a fitting option for your needs.

Thus, a parent may be able to participate in an addiction treatment program while their child is at school, or arrange childcare for only those few hours of rehab program instead of around the clock. Some American addiction centers also offer parents the opportunity to take their young children with them when they go to rehab, though this is relatively rare among rehab programs. However, allowing occasional visits from family members at set times is much more standard for most American addiction centers.

What To Expect in Addiction Treatment: Individual and Family Therapy

Once the parent has entered a rehabilitation program, a therapist or other qualified healthcare provider can begin to treat them for any underlying mental health disorder or other behavioral health conditions that may be fueling their drug or alcohol addiction.

These mental health issues will then be addressed with treatment options like the prescription of any appropriate medications and advanced recovery systems consisting of therapies scientifically backed by addiction research like cognitive behavioral therapy. Experts in addiction medicine at reputable American addiction centers will be able to asses you or your loved one’s individual needs, thus paving the way for individualized treatment options that will help them get to the root of their unique substance abuse issues.

High quality treatment facilities are also aware that a parent’s addiction affects not only themselves but their entire family unit. If you are a parent, both you and your children have likely been affected by your drug and alcohol use, which is why your addiction treatment may also involve the participation of other family members, such as in family therapy.

Family therapy sessions may explore unhealthy family dynamics and examine the structure of the family system, so that these problems can be resolved and healthier ways of relating can be established.

Family or individual therapy may also help children process the trauma of a parent’s substance use disorder, and both patients and their families often benefit from participation in support groups offered by drug addiction treatment centers. In support group meetings, former substance abusers may discuss strategies that helped them to stay sober from drug and alcohol, while loved ones will be able to discuss the emotional fallout that their family members drug use has had on them. For both groups, the community and acceptance that sharing stories can bring can be a valuable source of healing.

Depending on a child’s age, you may want to keep explanations of their parent’s substance use disorder vague and simple rather than risk going over their heads, but older children may be able to handle more information about a parent’s stay in drug rehab.

Use The Marchman Act To Force A Loved One To Go To Rehab For Drug Abuse

If you are worried about the drug abuse or alcohol abuse of a loved one who remains unwilling to commit to addiction treatment, you may want to consider forcing them to go to rehab by using the Marchman Act.

While involuntary commitment should be a last resort, professional medical advice dictates that, in situations where someone is a danger to themselves or others, such as if a parent’s drug addiction is rendering them incapable of adequately caring for a child, mandating someone to go to drug rehab may be the best option for ensuring that they do not fall victim to their own substance use disorder as well as to ensure their child’s safety.

Despite the risk that this course of actions could cause a parent to lose custody, in the end, a parent who finds their mandated addiction treatment beneficial is far more likely to eventually be able to be a positive influence in their children’s lives. Advanced recovery systems and treatment options offered in American addiction centers have a high likelihood of putting anyone who suffers from a substance use disorder back on the track to a healthy, productive life, while someone who refuses to consider a treatment provider is likely to continue their downward spiral.

For more information on using the Marchman Act to force a loved one into a drug rehab treatment program, feel free to call us anytime at 833-497-3808 or to contact us online anytime here. We can also arrange a consultation with a professional intervention counselor who may have the ability to convince your loved one to consider drug rehab programs without such extreme measures, or help you to get in touch with a qualified admissions representative for drug rehab treatment centers that may be appropriate to your loved one’s needs.

15 Feb

How to Help a Loved One Get Into Drug Rehab

Why A Professional Treatment Program Is Essential To Helping Someone With Drug And Alcohol Addiction

Dealing with a loved one’s addiction can be a harrowing experience for concerned family and friends. It can be hard for family members to understand addiction, especially given the unwillingness that many people with substance addiction can display to accept treatment for their condition.

But, as opposed to being a moral issue or a “choice,” substance use disorder should be considered as a disease, a serious mental illness that sometimes requires the help of a certified addiction professional before your loved one is ready to embark on their addiction recovery journey.

Rather than not caring about the effect that his or her substance abuse is having on his or her family, someone with drug addiction often simply does not have the emotional resources to consider the effect that their addiction is having on others. This is because of the all-consuming effect that their substance use is having on their own mental health.

They may be fearful of experiencing painful withdrawal symptoms if they stop their alcohol or drug use, or they may fear learning to live without the drug abuse that has become their central emotional coping mechanism for all of the obstacles life throws at them.

Along with the painful feelings that may have motivated them to start abusing drugs in the first place, they may now also be struggling with guilt and shame for the suffering that their addiction has caused their loved ones, which may only feed a vicious cycle of drug abuse.

However, at addiction treatment centers, caring treatment providers can provide medical advice and formulate an appropriate treatment plan for your loved one. A stay in a treatment facility will offer a person with addiction a controlled and completely drug free environment, where they will be able to slowly process all the painful emotions that they may have been using drugs and alcohol to escape.

An addiction treatment approach will generally involve specialized therapy designed to help your loved one to address these underlying mental health issues, as well as to work through the traumatic experiences that may have fueled their drug or alcohol addiction.

Depending on the patient’s needs, addiction treatment also may incorporate the prescription of whatever psychiatric medication would be appropriate for the patient’s specific mental health condition. It may also involve prescription of an appropriate regimen of medication assisted treatment, which is sometimes prescribed to ease a patient’s physical withdrawal symptoms so that they can focus on the cognitive and emotional aspects of their recovery, especially in the case of drugs like opioid that are known to result in intense physical cravings.

Treatment programs will also teach a person who is struggling with addiction healthier alternative coping mechanisms that they can use rather than resort to substance abuse. They will learn to identify and avoid people, places, and things that might “trigger” them to use drugs, and to pursue the kind of full and meaningful life that will make sobriety an appealing prospect.

Some addiction treatment centers also incorporate activities designed to foster a patient’s holistic wellness, like yoga or horseback riding. Treatment centers might also offer experiential outings and events which can help build community and connections between patients in early addiction recovery and help them to rediscover joy in their new life free of addiction.

Group therapy can also be an invaluable resource as it provides patients a chance to share their experiences of addiction with others who have gone through similar trauma, helping them to feel less alone and often helping them to become a lasting support system for each other through long term alumni and aftercare services.

If you suspect that a friend or family member may be struggling with addiction, you can also read about the warning signs that your loved one has a substance abuse problem here. But if you already have clear evidence that your loved one is in need of substance abuse treatment, there is no time to waste in convincing them to enter a rehab facility.

The longer a person remains in active addiction, the more entrenched their behavior will become, making it harder and harder for them to pursue recovery, and the more likely that they will tragically lose their chance to pursue recovery at all.

As attested to by this report from the National Institute on Drug Abuse, overdoses have been rising steeply since 2013, when dangerously powerful opioid fentanyl entered the drug supply, with 64 percent of last year’s massive overdose death toll thought to involve the substance.

The incredibly deadly nature of this drug means that your loved one’s life may be at stake if they do not receive substance abuse treatment at an appropriate addiction treatment center if they are abusing any illegal substances.

Aside from the risk of acute overdose or a fatal incident caused by behaviors like intoxicated driving, continual abuse of most substances poses a serious threat to long-term physical as well as mental health, even in the case of legal drugs like alcohol. Though it may not be easy, convincing your loved one to commit to a treatment plan may be the best chance you have at saving their life.

How To Help A Loved One Struggling With Substance Abuse

One important role family members can play for someone who is struggling with substance abuse is by serving as a part of their emotional support system. Instead of offering harmful “tough love” or playing an unproductive blame game, you should emphasize how much you care about them, which is why you are so concerned about their well being that you are willing to go to extreme lengths to ensure that they pursue treatment options.

However, if your loved one remains in denial that they have a problem, or otherwise unwilling to consider an appropriate rehab program, you may want to seek out the services of a professional interventionist, who can help you develop an intervention plan to break through to your loved one.

They may also be able to help you to find a specific treatment provider best suited to your loved one’s needs, such as a medical provider that is qualified to help patients through acute detox, which can sometimes be physically dangerous depending on the drug that they abused. In particular, alcohol and benzodiazepine withdrawals can lead to potentially fatal symptoms, so it’s important that a patient not try to go cold turkey without first consulting a qualified medical professional.

Involuntarily Committing Someone With Drug Or Alcohol Addiction To A Treatment Facility

Involuntary commitment should always be a last resort if a person is struggling with addiction issues. But, sometimes, compelling them to get help can be the only way to get your loved one to accept the life changing care they need. This is why, if confrontation and/or intervention has failed, it may be necessary to use the Marchman Act to force your loved one into a rehab program.

The Marchman Act is a Florida statute allows a concerned loved one to legally require that loved one to enter a treatment program if they can prove that the person is too incapacitated by an addiction to recognize their need for treatment.

To start this process, the loved one will have to file a Marchman Act petition, after which the court will determine whether the situation of the person with addiction warrants a court mandated stay in a rehab center. However, you will still be responsible for finding a specific treatment center with an available opening for your loved one, as well as for paying for their addiction treatment.

For a more detailed breakdown and step by step guide to what to expect if you initiate the Marchman Act process, you can click here. You can also contact our team of experts to learn everything you need to know about getting your loved one to seek treatment options for their addiction, including pursuing involuntary commitment to treatment centers if it becomes necessary.

For our professional treatment advice, and to learn about our professional interventionist services, you can call our website’s main phone number at 833-497-3808. We will be available to answer calls to the toll free numbers listed on our site 24/7, or you can also use our online chat function to talk to a live agent in real time.

18 Dec

How Enabling Can Fuel Addiction

In a most basic definition, the term “enabling” refers to any behavior performed by the loved one of someone with a substance use disorder that enables that person to continue abusing the substance. This could be behavior as direct as giving the person money with which to buy drugs or alcohol or giving them the substance itself, but there are also many far less direct ways in which the people who surround an addict could, mostly unwittingly, be fueling their continued drug use.

For instance, if someone loses their job due to an addiction, actions like paying their non-drug related expenses or allowing them to live in your house rent-free could be considered enabling, because they are sparing the person from fully facing the consequences of their job loss, and because the person now does not have to get another job in order to survive or to live in comfort.

This could in turn “enable” them to spend their days getting high rather than get back on the track to formal employment and a more stable life. Similarly, another common way that loved ones can enable addicts is by covering up for their mistakes—making excuses to their boss for missed days of work or bailing them out of jail after a DUI.

Enabling may also involve taking over responsibilities for an addict, such as doing work or chores that they are too incapacitated to do themselves, thus enabling them to continue the behaviors that incapacitate them.

Enabling, though, shouldn’t be confused with offering support, which would look more like the kinds of behaviors that can enable the addict to get help: helping them to find an appropriate form of treatment and assisting them in procuring that treatment when they may lack the emotional or practical resources to do so on their own.

There are many different reasons behind enabling as there are reasons to enable: you may be in denial of the problem yourself, or you might feel that the person will be safer under your roof or using safely purchased substances than they would be if out on the street procuring from unknown dealers. There may be some truth to these ideas, though another unfortunate truth is that allowing them to remain in their addiction will place them in greater danger in the long-term.

There may also be an element of codependency, which can involve a conscious or subconscious need on your part to feel needed by the addict, or a comfort-through-familiarity with the usual dynamics of your relationship. Or, also as part of a long-standing pattern, you may simply be feeling too emotionally burnt out to have the energy to resist an addict’s sometimes forceful and emotionally manipulative demands.

If you find yourself in such a fraught situation, it might be worth contacting a mental health professional who can give you individualized insight into the situation and the role you may be playing in your loved one’s addiction.

Another more insidious form of enabling is enabling that takes place through condoning the addict’s behavior. For instance, if you allow the person to abuse the substance or to become severely intoxicated around you without ever mentioning it, you’re basically sending them the message that their behavior is ok.

Not to say that you shouldn’t offer emotional support to an addict or that you should deny them your love and companionship, as they are likely in incredible mental pain due to their condition and all the guilt, fear, and shame that can come with it, meaning that they be in more need than ever of the respite and affirmation of their worthiness that a caring presence could provide.

You should also avoid actions like abruptly cutting the addict off, which could send them into a dangerous downward spiral. Instead, you should try calmly drawing a boundary, such as giving the person a clear ultimatum that lets them know the point by which they need to seek help or cease drug use, and clearly stating the consequences if they do not.

What you should do, though, is send a clear verbal message to them that their behavior is not OK, and try talking to them about the problems you have observed with their current pattern of behavior and the risks you fear they may face if it persists.

In doing so, you should make it clear that the problem is with their disease and their behavior as opposed to with them as a person, and that you are concerned about their health and safety rather than the moral implications of what they are doing.

In extreme cases, if a loved one remains resistant to getting help themselves and has clearly become a danger to themselves or others, you may be able to compel them to enter addiction treatment by using the Marchman Act, a Florida statute that allows for the involuntary commitment if someone whose substance abuse has severely impaired their judgment when it comes to their own condition.

To learn more about how one of our skilled intervention counselors can help you through the process of confronting a loved one about their addiction or filing a Marchman act petition, feel free to call us anytime at 833-497-3808 or to contact us online anytime here.

06 Dec

Five Tips For Talking To A Loved One About An Addiction

While the Marchman Act, which allows for the involuntary commitment of people who have become a danger to themselves or others because of their substance abuse, is usually used as a last resort, there are many lesser measures that you can take to help protect your loved one before such a crisis point has been reached.

For instance, if things have not yet escalated to the point where you fear for their well being, you could try simply talking to them about the possibility of voluntarily undergoing substance abuse treatment. Here are a few tips to give you a framework for how you should approach such a conversation.

1. Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out At All

While confronting a loved one about something as weighty as an addiction may be daunting, that doesn’t mean you should be afraid to reach out. The earlier that an addict gets treatment, the more likely they are to recover, as the addiction will simply get more entrenched the longer your loved one engages in it.

Adding to that, the risk that your loved one could suffer an overdose or another fatal or otherwise irreversible consequence if they continue along their current path should outweigh your fear of experiencing discomfort during the conversation or damaging the relationship by confronting them.

For someone whose substance abuse problem has not yet escalated into a full-blown addiction, it’s possible that they actually haven’t realized they have a problem, and they may be able to get back on the right path after you point out to them the extremity of their behavior without formal treatment.

For others, realizing a loved one is concerned enough to step in may be the wake up call they need to consider professional treatment, and they may even be relieved that you have reached out to them and that you no longer have to bear the burden of their addiction alone.

2. Be Prepared For The Conversation To Be Difficult

However, none of the above is to say that such a conversation will be easy. A loved one may become defensive when confronted about a drug problem that they are too afraid or ashamed to admit to, and instead may make excuses, try to wheedle out of the discussion and deny your accusations, or react with outrage.

Even if they do have that kind of negative reaction, your willingness to talk to them may open the door for them to reach out down the road when they are more comfortable if you make it clear that you are a safe person to come to.

To minimize reactivity and turmoil during discussion of such a fraught topic, try to approach them while both you and they are in as calm of a state as possible. Ideally, you also should not approach them while they are intoxicated, but as some addicts may be in the habit of getting high almost constantly, confronting them while they do not have their full faculties available is better than not confronting them at all.

3. Emphasize Facts Rather Than Your Emotions

While it is reasonable for you to feel all kinds of negative emotions in reaction to a loved one’s substance abuse problem, they are not likely the best thing to bring to the table in a discussion with someone who is struggling.

Instead, you should make an argument to them by bringing up specific incidents that illustrate why you are concerned: raising examples of things they have done that are illegal, dangerous, or out of line with the moral values of their sober self, or of relationships that they have damaged or opportunities they have lost because of their drug use.

You could also lend credence to your argument by either confronting them with another person who is also concerned or mentioning that others in their life share your concerns around their substance abuse.

4. Show Support And Concern As Opposed to Judgement Or Shaming

While addiction can sometimes make it difficult to relate to a loved one, you should never lose sight of the fact that they are a human being deserving of respect, dignity, and empathy rather than a problem to be solved.

Thus, you should make it clear that you are having this conversation with them because you love them and are concerned about their well-being, not because you have a moral objection to their behavior or think they are a bad person.

You should also avoid using stigmatizing language like “addict” or “junkie,” and try asking them open questions about what they are experiencing that show that you care about their perspective and experience rather than only pursuing the agenda of getting them into treatment, however important that goal may be.

To prepare for this conversation, you may also want to educate yourself on addiction, which will help you to direct any negative emotions you do express to the disease of addiction and not the loved one themselves. You should also try to be positive about the future and the fact that full recovery is possible, offering examples of role models who prove just that.

5. Offer Concrete Next Steps

Even if your loved one is able to hear your concerns and agrees with you that treatment is needed, they may say that they are not ready for treatment yet and offer reasons they need to delay getting help that may not amount to anything but excuses. While you don’t want to push your loved one too hard and risk burning a bridge, you should also be aware that condoning a drug addiction can be a slippery slope to enabling one.

Depending on your relationship with the person and their mental and emotional status, you may arrange a time to check back in so that you can confirm they have begun the process of seeking treatment, or you may proceed directly to helping them through the process of securing a place in a treatment center.

You should also make clear that you will be supportive to them throughout their recovery—for example, you can promise to visit them or talk to them on the phone if they are entering an inpatient program, or offer to drive them to and from their outpatient appointments.

Get Through To A Loved One With The Help Of A Skilled Intervention Counselor

If an initial attempt to talk to a loved one about their addiction didn’t go as well as you hoped, don’t despair. The help of a professional like one of our skilled intervention counselors may be the bridge you need to get through to your loved one, and they can also assist you in filing a Marchman Act petition if an attempted intervention remains unsuccessful.

If you have talked to a loved one and found that they are amenable to treatment, you should also feel free to contact us for help with finding a treatment center appropriate to your loved one’s needs and answering any other questions you may have about addiction and recovery. To learn more, reach out anytime by calling 833-497-3808 or contacting us online here.

06 Dec

Is Tough Love the Right Approach for Addiction?

You may have heard the term “tough love” tossed around in relation to how one should deal with addiction in a loved one. But whether or not tough love is the “right” approach for you and the person you are concerned about depends how exactly you define the term and what actions you are considering taking.

This is because it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish setting appropriate boundaries or ceasing behaviors that may be enabling a loved one’s addiction with a more punitive or demeaning approach.

While the former may be necessary for your own or your family’s physical safety or emotional health and could spur your loved one to seek treatment, the latter is unlikely to be productive and is far more likely to be harmful.

When Tough Love Might Be Appropriate

One instance in which tough love may be the way to go is when it refers to the loved ones of an addict deciding to stop behaviors that may have been enabling them. Though it may have been done with the best of intentions, providing an addict with money that they can use for drugs, excusing their bad behavior, or even just giving them a roof over their head, may allow an addict to continue to abuse drugs without experiencing the repercussions that might help them realize that their lifestyle is not sustainable.

Thus, if you have their best interests at heart, doing something as harsh as monetarily cutting a loved one off or kicking them out of the house until they can get clean may be an appropriate action, especially if their behavior while intoxicated poses a safety risk to you or others in the family.

Other examples of this kind of tough love could include a refusal to help the addict with legal problems, alerting the addict’s employer or anyone else their addiction is affecting, or alerting the authorities so that they may prosecute the addict for any crimes committed or ensure the safety of any children the addict’s behavior may be putting at risk. For some addicts, it takes measures like this to get them to come to their senses and agree to get help, though they are likely to react with anger before submitting to this help.

In these cases, you should state the tough-love boundaries you plan on enacting clearly and directly, and in a calm, rational manner instead of impulsively and emotionally. Setting these clear boundaries may spur your loved one to consider recovering, or, in sadder situations, it may be the beginning of the process of disentangling yourself from a family member who is unwilling to change.

When Tough Love Might Not Be The Best Approach

Though tough love can sometimes refer to the boundary-setting practices described above, they can also describe efforts to break down a person’s will and spirit in the hopes of making them so desperate that they will recover. As opposed to protecting them, this type of tough love has the aim of shaming, punishing, and humiliating the addict, who is likely already in an incredibly fragile mental state.

While anger and resentment of an addicted loved one are completely valid emotions you should take the time to work through on your own, they are unlikely to be productive when directed towards the loved one in question. Likewise, while a reasoned discussion of the risks of drug use could be persuasive to your loved one when they are in a sober and calm state, emotional scare tactics may simply drive them further into denial.

On the other hand, making it clear to your loved one how much you still value and care about them and that they will have your full support if and when they decide to seek treatment could be incredibly powerful.

Someone who is suffering from addiction is struggling with a complex disease, which means that the actions they undertake during the course of that disease are not fully their fault, nor are they necessarily a reflection of the person underneath that may have a chance to reemerge if your loved one chooses recovery.

While giving an active addict material things or practical help could be an enabling slippery slope, giving them compassion costs nothing, and can do no harm. Even if someone is dangerously out of control, you can still for example, take their phone calls, communicate with them virtually, or meet with them in safe, public settings.

In general, tough love should only be used after gentler approaches have failed. However, each person and situation is different, and a threat that could motivate one addict to recover could be the thing to send another into a dangerous downward spiral. Thus, the safest thing to do when wondering how or if you should use tough love when dealing with an addicted loved one is to contact a professional, such as one of our skilled intervention counselors.

Using The Marchman Act To Force A Loved One Into Treatment

No matter how much you care about an addicted loved one, there is no surefire way to “make” them stop using drugs. However, if a loved one’s behavior is so out of control that you believe they may be a danger to themselves or others, you can attempt to invoke the Marchman Act, a Florida statute that allows for the involuntary commitment of someone whose substance abuse has reached such a threshold provided that other criteria are met.

Though it should always be used as a last resort due to the potential that such a harsh measure could cause lasting damage to your relationship with your loved one, the Marchman Act is an example of the right kind of tough love, as it is invoked with the intention of preserving their well-being rather than punishing or shaming them.

To learn more about the Marchman Act, addiction treatment, and how one of our skilled intervention counselors can help you find help for a loved one, feel free to reach out to us today at 833-497-3808.

27 Oct

How To Take Care Of Yourself While A Loved One Is Struggling With Addiction

As difficult as addiction is for the person who is going through it, it can also be incredibly difficult for the people who care about that person. Here are a few tips that can help you attend to your own mental well-being as you muddle through this taxing situation.

1. Educate Yourself About Addiction

Addiction is an incredibly complex condition that can have a wide variety of contributing factors. Learning about the condition can help you understand that they are suffering from a disease rather than merely being selfish or making bad choices, as well as that while family dynamics can sometimes play a part in triggering an addiction, you are not at fault for your loved one’s disease or for any of their choices.

You may be better able to help your loved one once you know more about the psychological and physical underpinnings of addiction, or at least to have a better idea of where they are coming from. Being educated about addiction will also allow you to better explain your loved one’s condition to others and to help push back against society-wide stigmatizing beliefs about the condition.

2. Don’t Let Healthy Habits Fall By The Wayside

Aside from the fact that you deserve self-care regardless of a loved one’s addiction, you will be of no use to them if you drive yourself to the point of a mental or physical breakdown. Though paying attention to even your basic needs can feel difficult or even selfish when your loved one may be going in and out of crisis, you should still make an effort not to let the stress drive you to adopt unhealthy habits.

Simple things like eating regular nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and getting enough exercise are essential to keeping your mental and physical health on track. Since yoga has a meditative component, it may also be a particularly good choice as a stress relieving exercise break!

3. Set Clear Boundaries

As much as you want to be there for your loved one, there is only so much of yourself that you can give, and, taken to the extreme, your earnest attempts at help may actually enable them to continue in their unhealthy habits. It can be difficult to toe the line between wanting to make it clear that you still care and are not excommunicating them for their drug use and inadvertently playing a part in it, setting and holding yourself to clear boundaries when it comes to your loved one could be a great start.

For example, perhaps you will not take phone calls after a certain time, not allow the person in your home if they are intoxicated, or not provide them with money if they are likely to use it to fund drug use. Depending on the nature of relationship, at a certain point you may even want to consider withdrawing from it entirely for the sake of your mental health, painful as that may be, at least until they have committed to finding appropriate treatment.

4. Make Time To Connect And Destress

In order to maintain a healthy support system, it’s important that you not neglect other relationships in your life in favor of your relationship with an addict. Something as simple as scheduling a coffee date or movie night with a trusted friend could be a great way to destress and connect, ensuring that your loved one’s issues do not become all-consuming for you.

You may also find it helpful to begin attending a support group specifically for the loved ones of those struggling with addiction, where you will be able to build camaraderie and friendships with others in similar situations. In sharing your story and listening to the stories of others, you may be able to find not only commiseration but advice, empathy, and hope.

In the spirit of destressing, you may also find it useful to take up a relaxing hobby. Aside from exercise, pursuits like the creative arts, gardening, or baking can help keep you busy as a respite from your worries and elevate your mood and give you a sense of productivity even when matters with your loved one are not going as well as you have hoped. In the same vein, dedicating your time to some sort of charity project, maybe even one related to those struggling with addiction, may help you heal and give you a sense of purpose.

5. Seek Professional Guidance

A loved one’s addiction is liable to bring out all kinds of emotions in you—anger, depression, guilt, shame, fear—a lot for anyone to sort out! You may not be able to cope with it all on your own, and there’s no shame in that. Enlisting the help of a therapist can help you to work through your feelings and to learn coping skills with which you can better manage them, allowing you to maintain a sense of calm that will make you better able to handle stressors and to deal with your loved one even in intense circumstances.

There may be other cases in the course of a loved one’s addiction in which professional intervention becomes necessary. If matters get so extreme that you believe your loved one has become a danger to themselves but remains unwilling to seek treatment, you may find it beneficial to reach out to one of our skilled intervention counselors to help you get through to your loved one.

If an intervention is unsuccessful and the situation is severe enough to warrant it, they will also be able to help you through the process of filing a Marchman Act petition, which may allow for your loved one to be involuntarily committed to a rehabilitation facility. If this becomes the case, feel free to reach out to us any time at 833-497-3808 to learn more or to contact us using this form.

19 Oct

Understanding And Confronting Denial In Addiction

Suggesting to a loved one that they may need treatment for substance abuse is never an easy conversation. But it can be even harder if your loved one doesn’t even want to admit that they have a problem—in other words, if your loved one is in denial.

What is Denial?

Denial is a well-documented defense mechanism often seen in people who are in the grips of addiction. This mechanism is thought to occur mostly unconsciously, and to occur when someone feels unable to face the negative emotions that would ensue if they were able to face the full truth of their situation.

When the full truth of their situation is a full-blown addiction to drugs or alcohol, it is easy to understand why these negative emotions might be too much to bear. This is because when someone who has regularly been numbing themselves with drugs or alcohol realizes and admits that they have a problem, they will have to face the fact that they have no other option than to get sober, which will cause them a great deal of anxiety and sadness if they feel that they do not know how to cope with life without using substances.

Admitting that they have a drug problem may also invoke a great deal of shame, as they are essentially admitting that they have been unable to handle this problem on their own, which could be very threatening to their ego. It may also involve coming to grips with guilt as they face the full truth of the negative consequences that their addiction has caused.

Signs of Denial/ Common Denial Tactics

Denial of a substance abuse problem can take many different forms, but here is a list of some of the most common ways that an addict may try to deny that they have a problem.

1. Minimizing

An addict may point to the fact that they are still able to function, or that their problem isn’t as bad as it could be, as justification for why they do not have a problem or do not need treatment.

E.g: “Lots of people drink everyday/use drugs sometimes. What’s the big deal? “

This minimization can extend to downplaying the risks and consequences of their continual drug use. E.g:

“It’s just a little DUI, I don’t know why you’re making such a big deal of it!”

“Yeah, I know that some people overdose on heroin, but that’s not going to happen to me.”

2. Claiming Control

It may too threatening for a drug addict to admit they are not actually in control of their substance abuse even if this is the case. Thus, they may consistently claim that they can stop anytime they want to while demonstrating no ability to curb or set limits on their consumption.

One way that this might manifest is an addict pointing to the fact that they were able to go for a short period of time without using as evidence that they are fine while conveniently downplaying the fact that they went right back to their problematic habits afterward.

Or, they may point out to their ability to maintain certain limits, eg, “I never drink or use drugs while at work or while driving,” or “It isn’t as if I shoot up every day” as proof that they are in control when other aspects of their behavior show that this is not in fact the case.

3. Rationalizing

Someone who is exhibiting denial in the course of a substance abuse problem may also deny responsibility for their problem, or deny that their problem necessitates an intervention or treatment, rather than denying that they have a problem per se.

For instance, they may point out the benefits their substance abuse gives them while ignoring all of the pitfalls. They might claim that they cannot stop using because drugs helps them to relax, socialize, or be more productive. They may also try to assert that they have no choice but to use drugs because they have a traumatic past or suffer from a mental illness.

While these are potential factors in causing or reinforcing someone’s drug abuse that should be respected and taken seriously, they should always be addressed through appropriate mental health treatment or other healthier coping skills rather than used as by an addict as an excuse for continual drug abuse.

Are You In Denial?

It’s also important to remember that the phenomenon of denial is in no way limited to people suffering from addiction. Denial as to the seriousness of the situation can also occur in the loved ones of someone who has a substance abuse problem.

It can be scary to admit to yourself that someone you care about has lost control of their use of drugs or alcohol, and, depending on your relationship to them, it might also bring up feelings of shame, guilt, or helplessness.

For instance, if your child or spouse is suffering from addiction, you may deny to yourself that they have a problem, or deny the seriousness of that problem, to avoid confronting issues in your relationship or the idea that you have been a bad parent or partner.

In truth, your loved one may be abusing drugs for all kinds of complicated reasons that have nothing to do with you, and the fact that you are committed enough to try to help them to be considering formal intervention services shows how much you actually care about their well-being.

The danger here, though, is that your denial will allow you to justify enabling behavior, which you might minimize or rationalize in much the same way the addict rationalizes their drug abuse. Helping an addict to function despite their serious substance abuse or even simply not intervening if they pose a clear danger to themselves or others could allow them to continue indefinitely on an incredibly destructive path.

What To Do If Someone Is In Denial

Denial is a relatively common stage in the process of coming to grips with an addiction problem, and the fact that your loved one is currently in denial in no way means they will be never be able to come to grips with their substance abuse and eventually achieve a full recovery.

However, if you wait for them to reach that point on their own, the terrifying truth is that they may cause irreversible to damage to their health, invoke lifelong legal consequences, or, in the worst case scenario, lose their life to an overdose or an intoxication-related accident before they are ready to face their disorder on their own.

This is true even of an addict who does not deny that they have a problem but continually claims that they are going to get help “eventually” or “when they are ready” despite the fact that negative consequences are amassing in the meantime.

Thus, it may be necessary for you to confront them about their problem rather than wait for them to come to their senses. If you do go this route, try to approach them when they are in a calm, sober state rather than when they are intoxicated or emotional, and try to come at the matter from a reasoned, rational place rather than focusing on your own negative emotions or condemning the addict for their behavior.

Instead of trying to invoke guilt or shame, emphasize the concrete proof that their behavior is out of control: for instance, you can try pointing out the number of alcoholic drinks they are having per day, or making a list of all of the negative consequences their drug addiction has caused them. Then, calmly explain why you are concerned and the risks that they face if they continue on their current path, and offer any emotional and practical support you can to help them in pursuing the appropriate treatment.

If this all seems a little overwhelming, you should also know that you don’t have to go at this alone. If you are worried about a loved one who is currently struggling with addiction, you could also enlist the help of one of our skilled intervention counselors to act as a buffer between and to help you find the most effective way to convey your concern.

In extreme cases, if your loved one remains unresponsive and deep in denial even after a professionally guided confrontation, our intervention counselor will be able to guide you through the process of filing a Marchman Act petition.

This Marchman Act petition will, if successful, require your loved one to be involuntarily committed to a drug treatment program, in which mental health professionals will be able to gradually chip away at their denial and help them find a path toward lasting sobriety.

To learn more about the Marchman Act and how our skilled intervention services can help your loved one today, call us anytime at 833-497-3808 or contact us using this form.

24 Sep

How Do I Know If My Loved One Is Abusing Drugs?

Nobody is happy to entertain the possibility that someone who they love has been abusing drugs. But if you fear that that unfortunate situation is a loved one’s reality, it may be your responsibility to determine whether your loved one has indeed been abusing substances and what action you now need to take to protect their safety and well-being.

Some signs of a substance use disorder are the same across different kinds of drugs. These signs of addiction include poor performance at school or work, unexplained personality changes or mood swings, sudden change in eating or sleeping patterns, unexplained weight loss, uncharacteristic secretiveness, and unexplained withdrawal from social life.

Other signs differ depending on the type of substance involved. For example, if someone is struggling with an addiction to a legal drug like alcohol or a medication that was initially prescribed to them, you may notice a pattern of escalating use, as a few drinks with dinner or an occasional Xanax to wind down gradually becomes a more constant intoxication.

But if someone is abusing an illegal drug or a medication that was never prescribed to them, they are more likely to try to hide their drug use completely, especially if they suspect you will disapprove.

Other signs of drug abuse that can differ depending on what drug someone is abusing have more to do with the specific symptoms of intoxication that tend to occur with different drug types.

Classes Of Drugs And Common Symptoms

One type of commonly abused drugs are stimulants, a class which includes illegal drugs like cocaine and amphetamines as well as some prescription drugs commonly used in the treatment of ADHD, like Adderall, Ritalin, and Concerta.

Since these drugs rev up the nervous system, someone who is high on them will likely appear wired, restless, and hyperactive. They can appear more talkative, energetic, and confident than usual but can also display frightening psychological symptoms like aggression, paranoia, and loss of touch with reality. Stimulant use can also come with the risk of physical complications from overdose like seizures and heart failure.

Depressants are another class of drugs that can foster addiction that work in an almost opposite way, slowing down thought and bodily processes in a way that those who abuse them find relaxing. This category includes alcohol as well as some prescription drugs like benzodiazepines and opioid painkillers, plus some illegal drugs like heroin.

You’re probably familiar with the behavior of someone who is drunk, but someone who is using opiates or sedatives is likely to appear more zoned-out and lethargic, though also perhaps strangely euphoric. You also might notice dilated pupils, slower breathing, or slurred speech. If someone who you suspect has been abusing depressants appears unresponsive, you should seek medical attention immediately in case of an overdose.

Last but not least, there are hallucinogens, which tend to be less addictive than stimulants or depressants but can still indicate a serious substance problem. Some commonly abused hallucinogens include LSD, PCP, ketamine, and psilocybin. These drugs work by altering someone’s awareness of the world around them, either by causing a state of dissociation or by invoking hallucinations that take them into another world entirely.

You can recognize someone who is high on a hallucinogen if they appear to be seeing things that are not there, out of touch with or detached from reality, or speaking in a way that does not make sense. Depending on the drug used, they also may appear paranoid, aggressive, or even entirely immobilized. Some of these drugs also come with physical indicators, like an increased heart rate or dilated pupils.

It’s also worth noting that some drugs, like marijuana and ecstasy, have qualities of more than one “class,” as well as that many people who abuse substances have issues involving more than one drug, a condition known as “polydrug abuse.”

Withdrawal from many of these drugs also comes with its own psychological side effects, like irritability, anxiety, or lethargy, that could be hard to differentiate from intoxication. Thus, any confusing mixture of symptoms that could potentially be attributed to substance abuse might be worth investigating further.

However, it’s also important to remember that drug use is not the only possible explanation. Some mental illnesses, like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, or even severe depression, could present similarly to abuse of certain substances. Either way, though, if your loved one is sufficiently incapacitated, they may need your help in obtaining appropriate treatment for their condition.

What To Watch Out For

Aside from the behavioral signs of drug abuse, you may be able to figure out that your loved one is abusing drugs if you catch them with the physical drugs themselves. Be on the lookout for strange powders, liquids, or substances, or perhaps for a baggies of unmarked pills or a pill bottle with someone else’s name on it.

Your suspicions about your loved one’s drug abuse might also be given more credence if you find drug paraphernalia. Drugs that can be smoked could be indicated by the presence of rolling papers, lighters or pipes. And drugs that can be snorted might be signaled by the presence of rolled up dollar bills or straws to snort through, or a razor blade or credit card used to move powdered substances into lines.

For drugs that can be injected, besides the obvious syringes, you may also want to look for lighters and burnt spoons used to heat up substances before injection, or something that might have been used as a tourniquet to tie off an injection site, like a belt, rubber band, or shoelace.

Snorting or smoking drugs can also cause upper respiratory symptoms that could be a tip-off to your loved one’s drug use. And the surest sign that someone has been injecting them is the presence of track marks, usually on the person’s non-dominant arm but occasionally on other body parts as well. Someone who is constantly wearing long sleeves, even in warm weather, may also be making an effort to cover up these marks.

Some drugs also have a distinct smell, and you might notice either the scent itself or your loved ones’ efforts to disguise it; for example, an alcoholic might frequently chew gum or suck on mints to hide the stench of liquor on their breath.

Help Your Loved One Using The Marchman Act

If you are able to ascertain that your loved one does indeed have a drug problem, your next move will depend on how severe the problem is and whether or not your loved one is willing to seek help themselves. But if they are not, and they are clearly causing serious harm to themselves, your hands are not tied.

Though such a measure should be a last resort given its potential to cause lasting damage to you and your loved ones’ relationship, the Marchman Act is a Florida statute that allows for someone whose substance abuse has made them a danger to themselves or others to be involuntarily committed to a treatment program. To learn more about filing the Marchman Act and how one of our skilled intervention counselors can help you through the process, feel free to contact us anytime at 833-497-3808.

Category: Family and Caregiver Support